If my partner and I both cheated on each other and we decided to put the work in our marriage and go to counseling and recommit our vows via vow renewal and we did therapy for 6 years, and during this time say 1 of the partners was cheating emotionally and they decided without saying anything to not work on the marriage….are the past affairs still relevant to bring up cos the other party decided to cheat?

I feel it’s irrelevant as the point of therapy was to work on that and we recommitted our vows and self to each other. Pretty selfish to emotionally cheat while working on your marriage and after a vow renewal

So is it relevant or irrelevant