I am sorry for the long post and for the venting but I needed get off this chest. I had posted the other day about how I can’t stand my husband’s friends and their wives. I would hate to bore you with all the drama and events that took place the last 3 years I put up with them. But it was enough to left me hurt 🤕 , attacked 😟, and almost divorce my husband 😞. Long story short, I was disrespected and gaslighted by these people, it lead to giving my husband the ultimatum and he chose me. A couple of years I felt bad because he was having a hard time making friends at first, so I became the bigger person and try to find anything to apologize for 🥴, honestly I didn’t get an apology back I was gaslighted with misunderstanding their point and the past no longer matters.

After some given time, nothing changed. There are kids now in the picture, it got to the point that they were disrespectful to us as a family. We’re not the only couple to leave the group, that’s how toxic the environment was. My husband a couple months ago said he was done and for us to be done being around them. Probably too, he made new friends so this time around he didn’t seem as phased. But I feared his feelings may change, so I tried to stay cool and remain social media friends. It’s been months now, nothing has changed he is still not interested. I’m tired of my posts or outings being a topic with these people. I’m tired of feeling anxious or angry of seeing their content. I tried muting and then catch myself looking them up anyways. I asked advice if I should bite the bullet and block. I saw some commenter’s pointers including that it would be unnecessary but I think all I’ve known is to block someone for my own sanity and feel free from anyone who disturbed it. I’ve done this with ex boyfriends, family, and toxic friends.

I will be honest with myself, these people put me such in a bad mood, it is insanity to allow such people to make feel this way for the longest time. Seeing them brings me unhappy feelings and memories with my husband. I associate those memories and feelings to these people. They aren’t actively in our lives except through my BIL who won’t shut up about them. BIL still sees them and shares their business, so we have to watch what we say around him. But I learned the truth recently from my husband that the wives had admitted they were jealous of me, each one had their own reasons. My husband said he barely told me this now because he didn’t want to make the drama worse thinking I would had spilled that information during the blowouts. I don’t believe being envious of each other is healthy. So I finally did the blocking tonight. It may sound like unnecessary drama but it felt like relief for me 😮‍💨🫣 I do hope that if anyone is going this something similar they feel encouraged to do what they think is best for them mentally.