Husband has a porn addiction. Seems like it’s gotten worse over the years. We barely have sex once a month, no foreplay, we don’t make out, he does not touch me anywhere besides maybe squeezing my boobs once. No fingering nothing. Says it’s “not his thing?” I’m missing everything intimate that a relationship should be. Small kisses & hugs, sex… just flat out being touched in any way, I miss it.

I had our 2nd child almost 3 months ago and he says I look disgusting. That he just expects me to look “different “ but that my boobs are gross etc. I just want to be loved on and I’ve talked and talked and asked and told him how I felt about what he’s doing and what I need and nothing. I can’t even look at myself anymore.

At what point do I say it’s me, I need to lose weight and bounce back or leave? Do i take responsibility for his porn problem and work on me? Idk what to do 🥺