Hello all,

I need some advice, I’m very conflicted, lost and just trying to figure out some problems.

Long story long, my dad is in the hospital and has been for the past 2 years. Just found out he has cancer so they’re giving him a couple weeks.

My aunt takes care of my little brothers 6 and 7, she has asked for me to take full custody a year or so ago but at the time I wasn’t financially stable and was hoping that my dad would get better. He did, then this happened. My step mother isn’t in the picture now but her family doesn’t want them but they help when they can financially, which is still appreciated.

My financial isn’t the best lol but it’s getting better, can I support to kids? Yes and if not, I will find a way.

Now here’s the heart breaking part…. I’ve asked my boyfriend about his thoughts on taking in my 2 brothers, he wasn’t pleased with the idea. And that was 1 year ago, now with my dad’s life coming to an end…. We don’t have much time now, I don’t want to give my boyfriend an ultimatum. But unfortunately, I have no choice. I want my brothers in my life, they deserve the world and they didn’t choose the life they had. As someone who would understands them.. I want to protect them, guide them through life as much as I can.

I haven’t spoken to my boyfriend much about this recent unfortunate problem but would it be wrong if I do tell him “you can break up with me now or take them in” (of course worded better) my boyfriend is a great man and I’ll respect his decision either way, I want him happy but my brothers are kids and don’t need to be alone in this cruel world. If my boyfriend was faced with a situation like mine and he had to take in his nephew, I’d agree in a heart beat “what do you need me to do?”

Im 26 and my boyfriend is 31. Been together for 4 an a half years.

~~~please be kind, I’m thinking of so much right now. But any advice on how to speak to my boyfriend would be great~~~~~~ I’m a very straight to the point kind of gal, very blunt lol. I’m trying to respect everyone’s feelings.

~~ thanks for reading, any advice will be appreciated!!🤍🤍