My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now. He’s 38 and I’m 25. We both work at the same hospital. I just started working there like 5 months ago and he’s been working there for years now. We are both in the medical field. No one knows we are together. We are keeping it a secret. He’s a great guy! He helps me take care of my daughter who is not biologically his. He helps me with my bills even though he doesn’t live with me yet. He’s always surprising me romantically. This guy literally pays so close attention to me that he’s able to pick out gifts I would have never expected. Like, he gives me major butterflies. I have noticed he has a short temper, but it’s nothing extreme. When he’s angry with me, he just kind of shuts down and leaves my place or tells me to leave if I’m at his place. Sometimes, he will tell me to shut up when we have are arguments, but nothing over the top.

When we are work though, he’s a totally different person. He’s my boss, so has to delegate. But I think he takes it too far sometimes. He overly micromanages me. Always telling me I’m not doing something right. He alway chooses me for mandated over time when there is supposed to be a rotation. He is always singling me out when we are having meetings. He keeps writing me up for the pettiest things. It’s gotten so bad, I’m a nervous wreck every time it’s time to clock in. I’ve talked to him about it and he told me he’s just doing his job and can’t give me special treatment just cause we are lovers. He’s a man of few words when it comes to things he don’t want to talk about, so it’s very frustrating at times when we do have disagreements. I expressed to him one day that I was thinking of working at a different hospital and he got real upset about it and told me to leave his place. Why do you think he acts so sweet outside of work, but can treat me so harshly at work? Like I’m not looking for special treatment, I just want to be treated normally like the rest of my co workers. This is the oddest thing to deal with.