My boyfriend is a fast food shift manager. The other day his car died out and he was stuck there waiting for his uncle. I DoorDash and got pinged to his work. While I was there, a guy friend called me and a female coworker started talking to him while he sat at a table. I honestly didn’t really care that she sat with him. I know that he’s (mostly, at least) professional and tries to get along with people. So it didn’t bother me. BUT it did bother HIM that I talk to this guy. I mentioned to my boyfriend that he was supposed to be part of this group that was going to a Halloween event but that he’ll probably back out. I told him because I was explaining that I had an extra ticket to invite HIM in place. Instead, my boyfriend ignores my invitation and trails off to this rant basically about “men don’t talk to girls like friends. He’s going to treat you like an option or backup” and how I should stop talking to men bc of it. He was asking how often I talk to him and I told him not often and slipped and said “the last time I talked to him is when you were talking to that foreign girl”. He told me that saying “that foreign girl” sounded like something an “old white man” would say and called me hateful and jealous. When I tried to explain and apologize, he just kept insisting that I’m hateful and jealous. But why would I be? She just sat and talked to you while your car was broken. Like okay cool? That’s a normal interaction? It made me mad because how tf am I hateful and jealous one when you’re the one sitting here lecturing me that my friends are just using me in THE SAME CONVERSATION. But if I were to say anything to defend my friend I KNOW he’d get pissed and say how I never listen to him. It happens all the time that he tells me that even just men in passing are hitting on me