This will be a long post so please only give me advice if you read it throughly.

I’ve been with my bf for so long so this is why I feel guilty. I feel as if I am abandoning him…

So 2 years ago my bf started drinking in the weekends. (We don’t live with eachother). It wasn’t a big deal as he was only having seltzers while he barbecued at home or chilled on a Sunday evening. But I mention this because he never drank alcohol before. Matter of fact, he was always against drinking and hate the taste of alcohol so to me it was surprising.

I started noticing weird stuff within a year. I found small vodka shots in his truck …at this point it was straight liquor. I asked him one day and he said he got so drunk last night. It was odd because there wasn’t a party or anything that made him drink that bad.

One weekend, we decided to have breakfast together. It was 9am, and he made me stop by a liquor store. He chugged 2 of those mini vodka shots. Literally on an empty stomach and at 9am. He said he needed alcohol in order to eat.

Months went by and he went through a huge financial crisis which led to him drinking more and he was violent and agressive. It was crazy! I wanted to leave so many times but he made it promising that he would change. He even mentioned getting a home together. He caught up with his savings

One day out of the blue he admitted he had a drinking problem and had called rehab. I was so happy that he was willing to help himself. He called asking for more info and told me he was going to change for me and all this bullshit. He went to the doctors too and had blood work and really started to care for his health. Again, I was so happy for him. Days went by and I asked him when he’d start. He said he was waiting on them to admit him to rehab. He told me that they called him and said under no circumstances can he stop drinking or he “can die” I know this is true when alcoholics go cold Turkey.

More days went by, and I questioned him. He said he couldn’t afford losing days of work at the moment but he would call the Rehab again.

Weirdly, he hasn’t acted agressive or violent …could he have stopped drinking on his own? What is going on? It’s been 2 months since he said he’d find help

Yesterday he said he wanted to start meeting with a realtor so we buy our own house. I rejected his offer and said I wouldn’t not live with him until he found help. He said he doesn’t drink anymore…..