Hi I’m writing anonymously because I’m afraid of feeling like a bad mom (even though I don’t know most of you) and seeming insensitive because I already have a child, and I’m really lucky to not have any fertility issues, but I don’t want to have another baby anytime soon. I’m still in my 20s and I’m not interested in getting pregnant right now but still want to have sex with my husband. Sometimes we have sex when I know I’m not ovulating (use FAM) to avoid pregnancy so we can still have a healthy sex life- but it’s been a couple of months. The last time we had totally natural uninhibited sex it was great but it was a while ago and I’m afraid of getting pregnant again when we aren’t trying to get pregnant again. I’m trying to follow FAM guidelines like cervical position, CM and BBT but it is a lot of work and we aren’t even having that much sex since we have a one year old who sleeps with us/cosleeps with us. I know this seems like an obvious complaint but I just don’t want to do all this work if we aren’t even having sex. I don’t like having sex with condoms that much (neither does my hubby) and my husband is quick to finish when we don’t use them (and he pulls out) and I feel like the intimacy is shattered since we used to have great sex throughout my pregnancy and before we got pregnant (was using natural birth control for about a year before we conceived). I don’t want to use another form of BC and I want to have great sex again but I don’t wish to be pregnant right now. I know this is going to be a little insensitive for lots of you trying to conceive but I just need a break… I want to know is it worth the wait and all the work? All the time spent not having sex? Is it worth it? Anybody else use NFP/FAM? please send some positive comments my way if you can 🥹🙏… or the names of good counsellors for couples counselling so we can talk to someone about NFP/FAM (also we are not a part of a church… which normally is more open to this kind of BC for religious reasons.) ☮️