Am I being selfish? Lol...

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I just had a baby 3 months ago. My first. My husband's 3rd. My husband's ex wife died yesterday. He had two kids with her. Their daughter would have been 21 but she died in 2019. Their son is 16. I never read a relationship with his ex wife because I feel like she secretly was still in love with him. They married at 19 then divorce a couple years later because my husband regretted getting married so young. I know he lost his vcard to her. He wanted to experiment with his sexuality and they went their separate ways. My husband actually has realized he's bisexual but I guess not important. Anyway they didn't resend on bad terms but I feel like she's always wanted him. She has tried to be nice to me but I know how bitches be. Try to be your friend because she wants her man back. I never fell for it. She died and my the funeral is going to be in another state 14 hours away because that's where their daughter is buried and she wanted to be buried next to their daughter. I don't want to travel that far with an infant. It's too much work. We would have to stop so I can breastfeed. I just can't handle it. So my husband is recommending I stay and he and my step son go lol.... I don't really like that either. I want don't want him to leave me when we have an infant for his ex wife's funeral. My step son can go catch a ride with his grandparents to the funeral. I understand supporting your child but he will have support. Her whole family will be there so my husband doesn't HAVE to go... But he wants to. Am I just being selfish?

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Yes. Incredibly and horrifically so. You "know how bitches be" but cannoy realize you are being a epic bitch. Like this is bad enough I am going to assume you're a troll. If not you can take care of a 3 month old solo for a few days, not that big a deal. He needs his dad...not a grandpa or auntie...his fucking dad. The fact you are putting a totally selfish want over the mental and emotional need of a child is gross. You're jealous of a dead woman...grow up snd stop being selfish. And if you cannot care for 1 baby solo for a few days you shouldn't have had kids.

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Girl grow the fuck up. Talking about “I know how bitches be” this woman is literally dead. It’s HIS ex wife, he has a right to go regardless of how you feel.

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Yes selfish. And honestly still sound jealous over a woman that’s no longer here.

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So you could have had a great relationship with his ex but because you made up some story that she’s still in love with him, you didn’t. And now she’s gone and her son needs his FATHER to be with him at her funeral and you’re still fucking jealous. You really need to grow the fuck up. Therapy would probably do wonders for you.

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So she was kind with you and you blocked it off because you had shit in your head? I think I know who the bitch is here 🤷‍♀️ You were causing drama for this man because of your insecurities in your head. Now that she's dead you're going to not allow him to mourn because of your selfish reasons and you're going to not allow him to show up for his kid and her family for your selfish reasons. Do better woman. You'd want him to be there for your kid if something happens to you.

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Whether you like it or not that was technically his first love and mother of his children. Ofc he’d wanna be there when she gets laid to rest. She never did anything to you or him. Besides all that he may actually just wanna be there for his son and purely out of respect for her and her family. He gave you the option to go so it’s not like you’re excluded.

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Yes you are beyond selfish. You’re disgusting too. That is the mother of his children whether you like it or not bird brain. Trying to rob him of the opportunity to watch her be laid to rest and to support his son, because you think she was still in love with him is trifling. I can’t stand self centered bitches like you, y’all are almost always stupid asf.

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Wow yes so very selfish. You are a mother now! Just imagine sending your baby off to one of their parents funeral 14 hours away alone! That poor boy losing his mom at 16 is soooooo hard. He needs his Dad there with him and your husband probably needs to also grieve for the loss of his child's mother. Also your baby is 3 months old not a newborn, so it's not like he is leaving you alone fresh after giving birth. Either suck it up and go along or support your family as they go without you. This funeral just isn't about you so do right by your step son.

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Yes that’s selfish let that man go or pump in the way .

Am I being selfish? Lol...

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