I’m so upset with my husband and I don’t know how to move on

My in-laws were at our house yesterday. We don’t get along but we invited them for my husband’s sake. While I was out of the house my FIL spray painted a family heirloom that I got as a wedding gift from someone who is now dead. It’s made of wood and not breakable and sometimes my 2 year old son plays with it, and it happened to be on the ground because he was playing with it that morning. My FIL used beige spray paint and just painted it completely beige. I got home and saw it and was devastated. My husband asked why he painted it and my FIL said he was trying to ‘fix it for us’ and he assumed it was garbage since it was on the ground. My husband was happy/satisfied with this response and moved on.

I can’t stop thinking about this ruined piece. I have been trying to contact the place it came from originally decades ago to see if there’s any change I can replace it, figuring out how to re paint it in the original way if I can’t replace it. My husband is doing nothing. I want to talk to my FIL and tell him how upset I am about this because it’s just brewing inside me and I’m still so upset.

I feel completely betrayed by my limp husband for not doing anything. When I told him I was upset, both yesterday and today, he flipped out on me for being upset and having any reaction. He’s so scared of confronting his dad and is willing to try and just make me STFU about this in order to not have to say anything to him, or make any effort to replace or fix what was ruined.

Additionally, when his parents were here, my husband continuously showed how much of a mommy and daddy’s boy he still is for some reason, telling me I should let his mom cook breakfast for us because she’s the mom, making me prepare all of our lunch by myself because he wanted to go sit outside with his dad because his dad wouldn’t come inside to be with the rest of the family. He also destroyed something I sewed that took literally 30+ hours by letting our baby play in it and spit up on it and then putting it in the dryer on high heat after I clearly asked him not to. He also ‘mistakenly’ ruined our baby’s bassinet yesterday and it didn’t even occur to him to order a new one, so after cooking, cleaning and hosting his parents and taking care of our kids, and in between night feedings I researched and ordered a new one and asked him to order sheets. This morning I asked if he ordered the sheets and he didn’t, so I got to do that too.

I can’t even look at my husband today. I have a newborn and toddler who I have to take care of. I don’t know what to do.