My mother has decided last night (12/15) to inform me that she wants to have us come to her home for Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> to open gifts/eat dinner. We have always (since 2019) had Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> "brunch" with my parents and then after Mass we go to my husband's parents for dinner. This year my sister has to work Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> so l'm a just now being told that we should change our plans. I explained to her that I can't just not go to his side when it is already planned to happen. My mom then proceeded to say that is not fair because one of these years we're going to have to "give up" our ways of spending Christmas to sacrifice for other people too. (Because we spend Christmas Day at home and host Lunch and Dinner for any family who would like to come) which usually both of our parents stop over. Mind you my husband and I are both aware of this. It isn't forever... but currently we have been doing this because we both feel it's easier for our family. We have 4 kids ages 5 and under our youngest is 3m.

Pretty much the entire phone call my mom was crying that she wants the grandkids at her house for gifts.

Which we said we could on Sunday (12/22) | even told her we can come for brunch and stay all day. Then she proceeded to say that we rush out the door at like

6:00pm always right after eating dinner and she doesn't like that it's not closer to Christmas. Mind you she is still coming to our home on Christmas Day as of right now. She then started really crying and kept saying "you guys better enjoy these years while the kids are young" "don't blink because they're going to grow up and then you're going to get to deal with the joys to planning Christmas and holidays" "you'll understand when your kids don't want to come to your home"... and a bunch more... I just proceeded to say I'm sorry that I wasn't aware that you were wanting to change it this year and didn't really have anything else to say. She hung up and now it's just been bothering me ever since... I feel guilty which my mother is very gr at making me feel. I have always struggled with hav. to be the "perfect" daughter and can never tell her no. I am jw if what my husband and I are doing is wrong or not? Like are we being rude by telling her we're not changing everyone's Christmas plans last minute because my sister has to work. Like we are more than willing to come to their home Sunday.