Tired of being the “bigger” person

This is triggering for me because my mom used to give me the silent treatment for days when there was an argument. There were never any hugs, kisses or any sense of talking it through. I am the one who always breaks the ice. always! And my husband does the same thing to me. I’m always left to make it better, always the one who is seeking the emotional connection. I’m very uncomfortable with being in the same room not talking to each other. I desperately need emotional touch to make things better. But my husband is cold and leaves me on my own to deal with it. He never comforts me. And this time I don’t want to do it, it makes me sad and felt unwanted. I’m wanting to break the cycle by being always that person who seeks the peace. How do I tell my husband I need him to step it up too? He never attempts to check up on me, he sees that I’m not ok but rather ignores dealing with it