We are trying not be ungrateful but for love of God... My family doesn't buy safe toys!

This fall, one of my neighbours' toddlers died. She was two and swallowed a button battery but it wasn't found until it was too late. Our neighbourhood is still reeling from the tragedy because it happened just a few months ago.

My husband and I have never allowed button batteries in our home beyond the ones in our key fobs. Our keys are on the top shelf of a kitchen cabinet so way, way out of our son's reach. I know you can't shelter your kids from everything, but we don't have battery powered toys for our 1.5 year old. We doubled down on this when our neighbour died because my MIL insists on buying cards with button batteries, books with button batteries, and every toy she brings is powered by button batteries.

Despite everything, she still gets upset when we remove the batteries so our son can at least play with the toys she gets him. We just did "Christmas" today and again, everything she bought our son, including his Christmas card, had not just batteries, but button batteries.

I am so torn because on the one hand, people would kill for a grandmother who spoils their child and is as involved as she is. On the other hand, this is something we have repeatedly talked to her about. My husband has already removed the batteries and they're in his glovebox to take to work (his work does battery disposal). His mother made a comment about how we're once again ruining the toy she bought and my husband said "Because once again you've bought toys powered by not just batteries, but button batteries. Does your grandson have to die like the girl next door for you to finally get it?!"

We feel this is a decent compromise when my MIL won't follow suggestions for what to buy our son. She says we're being ungrateful and sucking the fun out of everything. Is there a middle ground? I will never sacrifice my child being safe, but it's hard to be around a woman who takes it so personally when you try and compromise.

Edit: she refuses to go shopping with us and will not follow an Amazon wishlist. We send her pictures of safe toys but she refuses to buy anything that we suggest to her or send her pictures of. She says she "shops from the heart" and only buys what speaks to her.