Today, I helped my mom Christmas shop for my dad (husband knew for 2 days). I called my husband and told him my mom wanted to get chick-fil-a after we were done and asked if he wanted anything. He passed and said he’d get his own food (he doesn’t like it). Fast forward, as I’m 5 minutes away from the house, he texts me if I’m still shopping. I let him know I’m almost home and no response.

As I walk in, he’s putting wings from 2 days ago onto a plate to heat up to eat. I can already tell he’s in a mood because of course he didn’t eat. I greet him and he says hey back without turning around. I avoid him and feed the dog. After our dog finishes eating, I take him out meanwhile my husband goes to our bedroom.

OH! While I was feeding the dog, my husband put his wings away and made a bowl of cereal. When I asked why he’s putting them seat, he told me he wasn’t in the mood for them anymore…

And now when I walk in the room, I notice the beside trash isn’t taken out, the hamper has clean clothes thrown over it to fold or hang up, and there’s cups on the table (not even on the coaster) and there’s a small sticky spot. I’m annoyed because if he didn’t eat and waited for exactly our dog’s food time (which is the time I came home) for me to feed him, then what did he do?

I wanted to avoid the conversation and so I began to do it myself. I took the trash out, I wiped down the counter, I stacked the cups into 1, and as I’m folding laundry he’s in a lobby waiting for a game to start. I tell him he needs to help me fold laundry and I’m staring him down so he gets off the game. Then he puts his headphones on and he’s ignoring me. But at least he’s helping me fold and put away laundry without any problems.

And now we’re here. I’ve ate and now I’m getting ready for bed while he’s being petty and playing his video games instead of getting himself food. Or making himself something. It’s frustrating at times (few times) when he’s dependent on me for food and if I eat without him he’s annoyed?? Like bro you’re a grown ass adult who’s more than capable of making or getting their own food.