No Boundaries MIL

Feedback would be appreciated…

So my MIL is hard work, she can’ (read doesn’t want to) do anything for herself until everyone refuses to do stuff for her anymore then suddenly she can do it for herself… She ALWAYS complains about how useless and lazy the people are that work for her in the house and garden. She’s never worked a day in her life and naps 2/3 times a day…

She has NO respect for personal boundaries….

When my husband still lived in her house she’d be looking for stuff in his cupboards or taking his stuff that in the house and lock it in her cupboard for ‘safe keeping’ without asking/telling him (she even wore a pair of sunglasses a while ago that I purchased for him as a gift a couple of years ago).

She always overshares personal stuff with me (like a nail fungus she had that she thought she got from a pool and then asked what I think it would do to your vagina? WTF??) That she constantly has bladder ingestions, literally told me that she sh@t herself while on a trip… WHO DOES THAT?? And I must just mention that she doesn’t have these conversations with my SIL (married to brothers).

She live RIGHT next to us and would always just rock up at our house before 7 in the morning ‘for coffee’ and when I then rush to get dressed she has the audacity to tell me I don’t have to put on a bra when she’s there, she doesn’t mind… I FUCKING MIND YOU SICK WOMAN!! She made the rudest comments when I was breastfeeding about my babies ‘only wanting that tit’ Again, WTF???

She even went as far as to come to my house before 7 looking for my husband and when I told her he was still sleeping she walked RIGHT past me TO MY BEDROOM WITH A CLOSED DOOR AND WALKED IN?? After that I wold my husband his mother has ZERO respect for me in my house and that he either has to talk to her or I’m going to loose my shit with her and from now on she ASKS if it is a convenient time for her to come to the house… I get so anxious whenever there is movement outside my house because I always think it’s her…

I have VERY bad feelings towards her and I have no idea to handle it because I think there are times that she’s not wrong but I can’t stand her so whenever she’s around I’m in a bad mood and terribly cold and I don’t want to feel like that but I don’t know how to handle the situation??