My mom is telling me to wait until 35 to have kids…

I just turned 25 a few weeks ago, I’m currently engaged to my fiance. We’ve been together since I was 21 and I can see this being the man I have my children with. I’ve already decided I want to have my first child at 28/29 no later then that.

I brought this up casually to my mom yesterday and she instantly asked me “You’re not gonna wait until 32? Or 35?” I told her no. She told me that I have to accept the fact that once I have kid I’ll always be worried and constantly worry about them, she also said I won’t have the same freedom. She said I should wait until 35 to travel, party some more and build more friendships…

I don’t really have any friends at the moment, there’s only 2 girls I stay in touch with here and there but there acquaintances — in reality they don’t know anything about my day to day life. They’re certainly not my friends. Just people I’m cordial with and have known for a few years. Growing up and all throughout high school, I was bullied and was severely unpopular so I had no friends after graduating HS in 2018.

Clubs don’t interest me, I spent the last few years partying. It’s fun and all but not anything I’m overboard or super excited.

I know 35 isn’t old at all — in fact I still consider myself young at 35 but medically 35 is considered a geriatric pregnancy. I don’t want to have my first child be at 35 and take the risks, I much rather prefer to have my kids at 29. It’s the last year of my 20s. We got into kind of a mini argument about it because she insisted that I should wait as long as I can to have kids. I’m well aware there are tons of women 35+ and up that have successful healthy pregnancies but after suffering a miscarriage last year from an accidental pregnancy I don’t think I want to wait until 35 as the risk of miscarriage increases even more as you age. I’m currently on birth control now and don’t plan on getting off until I’m ready to have kids. But the entire conversation got me thinking about my future.