Doctor Run Around

Why oh why do you have to see so many specialists to figure out feeding issues!?!? First, my daughter had a hard time latching to begin with. Size is an issue, small mouth large flat nipples and huge breasts…. So breastfeeding was a challenge. We were triple feeding with trying to latch, going to the bottle after 15-20 min then pumping. She’s getting all breast milk other than 2 days of supplement when I had a supply dip. Over time it got increasingly hard to get her to latch or even be good with my nipples. I tried bottle feeding halfway next to my boobs then switching to the bare nipple or a nipple shield. She got to the point of pissed off anytime we tried. I was working with a newer Lactation Consultant, CLC instead of the full IBCLC, and they recommended going to a fully accredited IBCLC and getting the mouth anatomy checked by our pediatrician. Pediatrician referred us to a Lactation Consultant and a Speech and Language Pathologist who specializes in feeding. Lactation Consultant worked with us for 2 hours and noticed a feeding pattern issue with her gulping and a weaker suck AND nipple aversion. She agrees with the need to see the SLP. So now we are going backwards to reintroduce the boob slowly. So then the SLP appointment and they say her pattern and suck are off but not horrible. They gave us exercises to do to build strength and feeding guidelines but also think she has reflux. So now we are waiting for a dietitian appointment in 2 weeks! Poor little girl spits up frequently through her nose if we move her within 30 minutes of feeding and we have to keep her upright. So now feeding involves the bottle and pumping then waiting 30 minutes for her to digest before trying to go to sleep with her in the crib. She’s super fussy and pissed off when she has gas or urps and I hate seeing her so uncomfortable! Next I’m trying to remove dairy from my diet to see if it’s an allergy and being proactive before our next appointment. Anyone else having these issues? It’s so hard and the sleep deprivation hasn’t helped me or my husband’s relationship. More fights because we miss communicate and aren’t cognitive enough to be patient (mostly him). Any magic wands out there?