Too much falling out of the forest works.

A couple of over 20 years of marriage with three children believed to all be by the husband, end up in a situation where the wife has a forth child by another male. The wife claims that there is no reason why the affair happened—yet the wife claim that, contrary to what the husband said about wanting the marriage of over 20 years to continue, the wife didn't believe the husband, and the wife elected to have the affair anyway because the wife thought that the husband no longer wanted the marriage. The husband don't believe the wife's reason of believing that the husband didn't want the marriage, because the husband understand that filing for divorce is how to get the message off that as a husband the marriage is no longer wanted—and not just going out and sleeping around. The wife swore that the affair was a one time thing, and that she have no intention of continuing anything with the person she had the affair with. Yet after the affair, the wife found out that she was pregnant. The husband did the math and focused that the conception of the pregnancy occurred during a time when the wife didn't come to the family's apartment. The husband asked the wife about that window of time on many occasions, and pointed out to the wife that she was intentionally being evasive with her replies. Eventually, the wife did admit to the affair, where the wife's husband told the wife that it is unlikely that the child was [his/the husband's] from the start—where the wife didn't believe the husband's math—and told the husband that he don't know more than a woman about how fertile windows work—which led to the wife planning to prove that she was correct, and that the developing fetus did belong to the husband. After the baby was born, the wife did a genetic genealogy test on the baby, with the intent to reveal the results to her husband on Valentine's Day—which turned the result that the husband was not the father, as the husband suspected. Yet after the genetic genealogy test, family of the person the wife had the affair with began to contact the wife, including exes whom also had children with the same person. One specific ex whom has a daughter with the person the wife had an affair with keep contacting the wife, and stating that the person the wife had the affair with keep denying being the biological father of the child when they talk, and trying to get back with [her/the ex who has an older daughter with the same person]. Yet, multiple other exes has also became known, and made themselves known, surrounding the recent birth of the child the wife had through the affair. The husband is upset about everything involved in the matter, yet greatly value the over 20 year relationship and marriage, and still want to salvage it, and also want to be a part of the wife's social, emotional, and spiritual healing—as the husband assess that his choice perfectly align with the husband being the man he has always know himself to be—and as a result, the husband do not follow any of the actions that the husband assess to be the common actions of the weaker majority of males in society who care more about how other males viewpoint project how they feel they should be—as the husband feel that the husband's act of even staying in the marriage come from a place of strength—in the face of the evident reality that no man would be unjustified for leaving a marriage that has been so damaged by reckless indifference—yet the husband is growing very tired of the wife continuously engaging the exes of the person the wife had the affair with—and has voiced it to the wife that the weight of how everything is operating out has made the husband feel distant—because the husband has come to the conclusion that the wife's actions don't match the wife's words at all—which is based on the fact that the marriage is still in effect, and the husband welcome the child as the flesh of his wife's body, and the sibling of the three existing children—yet the husband don't welcome the person that the wife had an affair with, or his other exes that the person whom the wife had an affair with just so happened to also had children with—yet the wife have been keeping the exes numbers and continue to accept calls from them about the baby, even though the husband has voiced to the wife to put an end to all of the calling about the baby from exes of the person the wife had an affair with—yet the wife feel it is difficult and claim that she want the baby to know about his other siblings—while the husband maintain the stance that since the marriage is still in effect, the baby will know about his other siblings from what the wife will tell him, yet won't meet any of them until the baby is an adult with the autonomy to meet up with them in person on the baby's own adult ability, with it in mind that social media conversation will occur well before the baby is an adult—and the husband assess that the wife is entertaining allowing contact between the baby and the other siblings way beforehand—yet the wife deny this, yet is still holding on to the exes numbers. There has been many conversations on this topic between the husband and the wife. This post has been uploaded to Glow for everyone to assess and point out what they can see on the face to be out of sorts with the issue, and freely comment that feedback so that the comments can be assessed against the coments that the husband and the wife have already had on the matter. The husband and wife both thank the glow community for this platform to share different points of views.