Husband still in love with his ex/cheating?

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So I'm probably being a bit dramatic about this but it's REALLY got me upset. My husband and I have been together for 12 years, married for 8 years, 2 kids together and both 33. From what I've gathered he was like SUPER in love with his high-school girlfriend when they were together. They broke up and he had several long term relationships after her before we got together. We're kind of from a small town so like she still hung around his friends sometimes and I knew her, but not personally. She quit hanging around his friends pretty quickly when I came into the picture.
Fast forward to tonight and we're playing a game where I got the high score. He goes to put my initials in but puts hers in instead.... Now I will say our first two initials are the same but not our last name (I have his fucking last name) and he used numbers I don't normally use. When I called him out on it, like those aren't my initials, he seemed real uncomfortable and was like, I don't know why I put that, I'm stupid, blah blah playing it off. But then I was like wait a minute, aren't these your exes initials and then he seemed even more uncomfortable and was like I don't know. So I was like I know they are and walked away and he was like are you really mad? It was just a slip up. 
BRO WHAT. A slip up? We've been together 12 years, you haven't seen this woman, that I know of, for like 6 years and she's been living in another state. How could you possibly mistake our initials. 
Now my crazy ass is convinced he's cheating on me or something because he's been nicer than usual the past couple weeks and even agreed to finally buy me a hot tub. I just thought his depression medicine was starting to work but now this seems suspicious. AND now this man has not come upstairs and I'm pretty sure is sleeping on the couch. 
What do you all think? Am I being dramatic? Should I let this go and not be upset?

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That would send me into a spiral but im also crazy so probably not rational. Lol it is way too much of a coincidence though & his reaction is suspicious af.

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I want to say dramatic.. but i swear i would have honestly reacted the same way.. this definitely woulda pissed me off and got my mind going

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I'd be hurt he's thinking of her while with u.. we can all have thoughts.. sometimes but i mean come on.. it's been 12 years.. why did they break up?

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You're no dramatic here. I'll reat in the same way. Talk to your husband, don't keep it to your self because it will destroy you the overthinking

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Yes I find that suspicious.

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Man idk, that’s suspicious. Last time I got cheated on dude offered to buy me an iPhone 12 Pro Max and wanted to take me on a shopping spree 🤣

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I think your emotions are justified, why would he even mistake your initials and y’all have the same last name but he could not be cheating he could be thinking about her though as if he saw her on social media or a friend brought up her name. Best thing you can do is talk to him.

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I understand why you’re upset but I think it’s dramatic to think he’s cheating based off this alone. Maybe the game was something they used to play together? Something reminded him of her? It was an innocent mistake and he seems to feel bad about it. If I were you I’d talk to him about it when you’re a little less upset and move on from it.

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I have to agree with everyone else, I don’t think your being dramatic and would have reacted the same way! You may not know, but was the game or place you were at, a place that him and her may have went too? He may have been reliving a memory that he had with her and didn’t fully realize what he was doing until you said something, but even then that would bother me that he was thinking of that while putting the name in for you! But then again, 12 years is a long time and those memories should either be very faint or not something that he would mistakingly do! Andddd his reaction is sketchy, especially sleeping on the couch. If he was innocent, you’d think he’d be trying to prove to you that he really didn’t mean too or something! I’d just have an honest conversation with him and don’t just sweep it under the rug cause it’ll drive you crazy wondering what the truth is!

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Talk to the girl first. Then talk to him. You’ll catch the truth somewhere

Husband still in love with his ex/cheating?

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