Mother in law

Here is where you will be expecting me to talk bad about my mother in law. Well I am not, but wondering how to approach her. I will firstly say what me and her son were like pre meeting eachother. I have been married before, I was a stay at home mum. My ex was abusive a serial abuser and serial cheat. I share 3 children with him, he sees them once every other week in a safe place and he has them for 2 hours, he isnt allowed to take them out of there just sees them there and that is it. This is court ordered. My partner, was a single man in the city, focused solely on his career no kids just ex girlfriends. So I do own a house 100% after the divorce, I am a landlady now as my job as I was given my exes properties as part of the divorce. My partner lives with me and the.kids and we happily brought a baby girl into the world in September. I have met his Mum a few times, we do live far away and I met him just before isolation hit, he lived by me for his job so I never moved him away. I have just told friends and family my ex was a cheat, I am not comfrotable people knowing all the shit he done and I allowed him to do. So sometimes the way she behaves around me I feel like she walks on egg shells, nervous to say the wrong thing. My.partner does speak highly of me, I encourage his work, I encourage family time and I.encourage.progression. like he has a presentation to do I allow him time to do.work for it with no distractions etc. He talks highly of me. I am 34 and he is 37 so not.like we are kids. She does treat my kids amazing when she sees them, she treats them.like her own bio grandchildren. She sends up gifts for.her grandaughter like outfits and things for.my kids so.I.always.thank her personally and send pictures. I have done facetime with.her on my.own as well but.still can.tell she.isnt at ease with me. She is aware I have my own money etc. So a bit of advice, what else could I do maybe?

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R

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Just give it time, maybe your s/o didn’t bring gf’s around much before you. Some people are very open and warm straight from the beginning others are more socially awkward and may need time to warm up. If you genuinely want to get to know her invite her out to lunch just the two of you and spend time together.

El

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She could be afraid to overstep or make you feel uncomfortable? Mother-in-law's get a bad name usually. Give it time, keep reaching out, set up times to video chat, visit, etc.

A

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I wouldn’t worry about it. She might just not be willing to have the same type of relationship you’re wanting from her. It sounds like she accepts you and your kids just fine as is.