Relationships

So some advice please ladies…

Sorry for the long post

I’ve been with my boyfriend since start last august ( he’s also an ex from 3 years ago we was together 4 years previously)

I love him with all my heart and care for him so much but there’s no spark between anymore. We hardly have sex . He doesn’t want it or tells me to get off and if we do have sex is it feels forced.

It’s almost like he’s paranoid he’s asking who I’m texting constantly and if I’m on the phone who it is ( if I’m strolling in TikTok) he’ll say I’m texting someone and I have to show him otherwise he’s really sh*tty with me. But he takes his phone everywhere with him in nkt even allowed to check the time on his phone and he was in the shower the other day I had to grab something from the bathroom and he was on, Phone I’m the shower.

He had an disgareement my mum the other week as he forget she was staying over as he was sitting there calling me a c*** (she was baby sitting as we was out for dinner ) which isn’t like him at all usually he has seemed to have changed loads since our last relationship.l and has already said he wouldn’t be with me if I didn’t have a baby which makes me Think why is he with me then?.

I have a 2 year old son who’s not his but he is amazing with and couldn’t ask for anything more with how he is with him he’s amazing and I appreciate it so much!.

All my friends have said I’ve lost my spark and not my bubbly self. And honestly I don’t feel my happy normal self.

I was out for dinner with my mum friday just gone and I had bumped into one of his friends out who didn’t realise we was back together and had mentioned he was talking to someone last last around when we starting seeing each other again…

So how do I go about this do I ask him or just leave it?

( although he’s worried about this friend who I bumped because he like a few photos of mine of Facebook ).

Im just so torn on what to do because right now I honestly can’t see us together in the next year