Am I in the wrong and just not seeing it?

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Long post I’m sorry! 
I have no contact with my sister (20) because she was hitting her boyfriends infant since she didn’t like the mother. She’s ALWAYS fighting someone, pulling guns out etc. and is very unstable and ghetto. She even tried to fight her grandma. I’m the complete opposite. I’m 27. Anyways, her boyfriend ended up killing himself in front of her the other day. She came to visit my twin and I didn’t know she was there so I went to my twins house too.. I go there every single day to help with my niece. When I got there my twin said she was actually taking her home right then so I just sat at the table with my 6 month old since she was leaving. Then before leaving she corners me at the table asking why I don’t talk to her anymore.. I told her because she was abusing the baby and that made me uncomfortable and sad for the child. She got so angry and started screaming and threatening to hit me with my baby in my hands. I told her if she hits me I will protect myself and my baby. She took that as me starting a fight and went ballistic. I was talking calmly to her. My twin and brother in law came in screaming at me telling me she’s welcomed here anytime she wants and that I’m never going to be allowed back because I shouldn’t have stuck up for myself since she’s going through something. They had to hold her back because she was trying to get to me and my baby. Then she started threatening to break the windows in my car. My baby is screaming at this point because she’s about 3 feet from his face screaming smacking her hands together trying to hit us. There was no where I could go since I was cornered. Now they’re mad at me and won’t talk to me or allow me to see my niece. They’re saying I’m the issue because I didn’t reach out to her to give her sympathy. My baby had nightmares crying in his sleep. She started texting me after threatening to have men come to my house and hurt me because I didn’t reach out to her.
She’s has always been a bully and even kicked out of school for bullying.

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My children come before toxic family. I wouldn't speak to any of them. If they are dangerous then it's my responsibility to remove my child and myself and family enables dangerous behavior then I'm going to remove my child and myself.

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You can’t control other people, but you can control yourself and who you allow around your children. Cut contact entirely and immediately. 
That being said, something about this doesn’t make sense. Why did the rest of the family immediately side with her considering her past behavior, and call you out as the bad guy or instigator? I feel like there’s way more to this story and lots of relevant background.

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I wouldn’t speak to any of their psychotic asses.

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Your definitely not in the wrong in this situation. But I hope you called CPS in the past on her for abusing that baby. Cutting her off wouldn’t be enough when she is endangering a child’s life. I understand that she might be off because her boyfriend just committed suicide in front of her, but her being abusive isn’t a new thing.

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Sounds like your twin and her husband are as ghetto as your other sister. They had no right defending her. Idgaf what she's going through or went through, she had zero right beating the other baby and she had no right to threaten you and your baby. Where was the baby's mother? She should have given your sister the beating of a lifetime or better yet shot her so she would never wave guns at people or beat a baby ever again!!!

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Sounds like she acts that way because the rest of the family enables it. You’re not wrong.

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I would move far away from my entire toxic and dangerous family if I were you.

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No, you’re not in the wrong. I would cut them out my life if that happened to me. Your sister needs therapy/counseling/anger management. She’s the problem. I wouldn’t deal with them anymore. They are toxic and you don’t need to put you and your baby in danger. 
I would probably get a restraining order against the sister. Sending people to harm you is a felony.

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I would explain to your twin in writing that she asked you why you don't contact her anymore and that you simply responded with the truth.
That you don't want her to feel unwelcome at your twin's house but that you don't want a bond with her because of her aggressive behavior.
That you feel sympathy for what she went trough but that this conversation didn't revolve around that, nor should she have reacted aggressively towards you and your 6 month old baby.
That you would understand if she doesn't want contact with you anymore if she chooses to continue to see you as the insitgator of this incident.

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They are all crazy. Your poor niece, the innocent that has to live with them in that environment. Cut ties for sure. Maybe even a restraining order for your crazy sister.

Am I in the wrong and just not seeing it?

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