My husband and i have a niece on his side of the family that we love dearly. But i have problems with my sister in law because she continues to say that we never help her and she makes comments about me taking his money. Even though before i had my son most of our money went on his sister and his niece!!! Every week she would ask for money and ask him to buy things for them (a mirror for her room, a new bed set, food, clothes, nails, purses, wallets. When i feel like her bf should be the one buying her those things and he should get those things for our little family. Keep in mind his sister is not the best mother. She has different men spending the night with them, drinking, doing drugs around her daughter. We have offered and her mother has offered to take custody of his niece to take care of her and she can see her whenever as the baby father is hardly present, she refused. She sent the baby off to another state with her own biological mom THAT ABANDONED both her and my husband. During the time our niece was gone his sister was supposed to be getting her life in order for when the baby came back. Instead she used her time to party every day and go sleep with her friends boyfriend, and her baby fathers cousin. 😒 She got a job but she lost it because she was too tired from partying to get up for her shift. Well the day came for her to pick up her daughter from out of state and i picked them up from the airport. on the way home she started yelling at me and my husband about how she thinks smacking her 2 year old daughter in the face is discipline and since we disagreed with her she started saying “F y’all i don’t need no one. I never had no one. Nobody ever helps me anyways” So finally i said “If we don’t help you then don’t call us next time you need help. I’m tired of you saying that no one helps you when we do everything to help you and if you feel that way then we might as well save our money and energy for our son”. She went on to ignore us for a while even though we tried to check on her and her daughter. At a time, he bought more things for his niece than he did our own son. When we would go shopping for our son he would always show me things for his niece while i was looking for our baby. This has subconsciously made me dislike the sister and niece even though i know it’s not her fault. and now everytime he wants to give them money or buy them something, I cringe! The sister swears we’ve never helped her so why continue?! Well today she asked for yet again another favor. She wants us to pick her daughter up from daycare, even though we’ve expressed that unless she has a car seat we don’t feel comfortable to pick her up. Plus the little girl is used to not being in a car seat or seatbelt because her mom NEVER makes her sit in it or sit down in the car period. Hence the reason i don’t want to give them rides. Well i brought this up today to my husband in attempt to get him to not do this favor for his ungrateful sister and the first thing out of his mouth is “We got to buy our baby girl a carseat” CAR SEATS ARE NOT CHEAP! and if this b**** thinks we don’t help her then WHY is he planning to spend so much money on a seat for his niece?! Our son needed a new carseat for months and he wasn’t this quick because of “money issues” now all of a sudden he has 200 to drop on her???? Hell buy things for her before our son has diapers and formula and it makes me hate everything having to do with his sister and niece… Am i the ass for not wanting to help them???