If your man talks about finding other girls attractive, is that a red flag?

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My boyfriend and I are both 24 and have been together for over 2 years. Lately, I've overheard him call two different girls (one from the gym, one from the barbershop) hot to a friend. I wasn't supposed to hear - I overheard accidentally. The first time, I told him it was hurtful and asked him to not speak like that about other women behind my back. The second time, I was just pissed he did it again. Is this a red flag, or am I overreacting? He's never cheated to my knowledge and he does treat me like he loves me a LOT and is attracted to me when we're together.

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I just think it’s disrespectful to be telling his friend about all these hot girls he sees
I would be bothered if my husband spoke like that because I’d consider it single behaviour 
Is my husband going to think other women are hot? Yes.
Does he need to talk about them to his friends? no

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For me it would be. My husband would never.

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Disrespectful. It’s normal to notice if someone is attractive but he should leave it at that and nothing further. Why talk to his friend about another girl being “hot”? So disrespectful I would be so upset if I were you

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No. Finding other people attractive isn’t a red flag. Neither my husband or I would be offended if the other said so and so was attractive.

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Haaaa haha my bf knows that I will have a throw down with him if he would ever do that because in my relationship it’s disrespectful and I find it not appropriate in my opinion🤷🏼‍♀️

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We're both okay with saying and hearing other people are pretty or hot or sexy or whatever. We also do it together when out, "look at that dude/chick" and we both take an extra look.

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I don’t think a man should speak those thoughts out loud to anyone. I would feel icky if I overheard my fiancée doing that to his buddies

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It’s normal to notice if someone is attractive, we all think it but I would never say it in front of my bf because I think it is disrespectful. Me and my bf talk about celebrities we find attractive but I think it’s different tbh. and this goes for anything, if you tell your partner you’re uncomfortable with something and they continue to do it then that is a red flag.

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That’s disrespectful and my husband would never. And IF he ever did then I guess I won’t have a husband anymore.

If your man talks about finding other girls attractive, is that a red flag?

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