My ex husband told me why I can't keep a man

I have been married 3x and am going through my 3rd divorce. I only have a kid with my first husband and our son is 16. He was dropping our son off and I asked him "What's wrong with me? Why don't men want me?" He said "Is that a rhetorical question?" I said he knows me the best. We've known each other since childhood. He was knows me better than anyone so he should know right? He says "I mean I cheated on you. Does my opinion really matter?" I said yes. He said "Okay. Just know what I'm about to say doesn't mean I think cheating was right. I should not have cheated. I should have just divorced you." I said okay. He goes off. He says that im needy yet don't give the attention that I expect from others. I'm cocky. I treat my family shitty. He also says "You are also GOD AWFUL IN BED! You want to do the same position all the time and never put work into it. Then you take boundaries during sex and throw them out the window. There are things you discuss with someone before sex. You just put a finger up a dudes ass out of nowhere. Then continue to do it after they said they don't like it!" His sex rant went on for a while. He said I have 0 boundaries. I'm also really annoying and talk over everyone. He said I'm mean, hateful, and judgemental for no reason but gaslight the hell out of people. He told me I throw fits like toddlers and if someone upsets me even if I'm in the wrong I don't just burn a bridge. I try to burn peoples lives down. I said I think I get it and he goes "Nope. You need to hear this. It's good for you. Also our son told me this, why are you trying to get him to call every guy you date for 3 months dad. That's so weird ". He went on a 20 minute rant if everything wrong with me. And honestly I thought I was ready to hear it but I'm not. I'm honestly extremely hurt and want to cry. Every divorce I've had has been initiated by my husbands. Even my first one who cheated when I said I'll work it out he wanted a divorce anyway and remarried hus mistress. Do all men think this about me?

@Marley I mean the things that he said that I actually DID are true. His opinions of my personality that I'm mean and hurtful. I don't know. I don't think I'm a hateful person.

@yeny we are civil now. The divorce was really messy but we were best friends at one point and we still care for each other and that will never go away. We talk and have conversations. We don't hate each othe

@yeny I don't seek to ruin lives, but I can be a very vengeful person sometimes. I believe if you do something shitty you can't be mad when someone reliates.