So a little background…I am a 30 year old married woman, we have a 3 month old son.

Myself, my husband, FIL & MIL have a family business. We split payroll. The actual business is in my MIL’s name because she had the credit/money to do so. Each month when it’s time for our checks, we sit down, go over how much we made, divide everything and call H&R Block so our accountant can deposit our paychecks. We’ve been in business since February 2022 and have done it the same way since we opened.

I just had a baby in March and I went back to work when our son was like a month old. In our back office we had everything set up for baby like a nursery, and a place for me to relax and feed. So technically when I came back to work I wasn’t really working I was just chilling in the back. My husband took care of our customers the whole time I was gone and if he had questions he’d call me and I’d help him. If I wanted to come back to the office early, that’s my decision to do so.

However my mom and grandma are like “why do you need to go back so early” “can’t your husband take care of it by hisself” “his family is just using you” before you say oh that’s your mom she’s just concerned… she never asks how business is, never inquires about anything because she feels I should be working for the state. She’s also jealous that I spend time with my FIL & MIL so much. We have a successful business and my mom can care less. Our business makes me happy because we have the ability to bring our son to work every single day. Instead of saying things like I’m glad your happy, you’re doing so well… it’s always something negative. Then if she comes to town she expects me to always leave work to hang out with her. I told her I’ll see her when I get off but she’s adamant on me taking the whole day off. Just because we have our own business doesn’t mean I want to just take a full day off. Saturdays are our busiest days, I tell her that and it goes right out her other ear, she could care less. Only thing she hears is that I’m not taking off work. Her and my husband don’t have a relationship cause she’s always cold towards him and he chooses not to be treated with disrespect, I support his decision. My grandma and mom make me feel bad constantly about my choices. Neither one of them are married, so it’s like they don’t understand that I’m choosing my husband, child and business first.

If my mom was ever married I feel like she would possibly understand my decisions more. I’m in a team, I’m not just some single girl anymore I have responsibilities. From the beginning she never seemed happy that I married and have an amazing husband that takes care of me. Never just said I’m proud of you. Like she sometimes gives hater vibes and I don’t know how to deal with her anymore. I’m starting this new era of putting my feelings first and standing up for myself more and she doesn’t like that.

My FIL&MIL offered to pay for our <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> $27k, they’ve helped us pay off a few credit cards because they knew how stressed we were over them. Like they just go above and beyond in helping us. They’re not rich but they’ll do anything for their son to help him not stress, which in turn helps me also. They think of me as their daughter. My mom has never made my husband feel even apart of the family smh. You can’t do nothing then expect everything.

Anyway rant over 🤯