Twice already that I've gone over to my mother's house I'm told not to worry about my kids and stop parenting them. My 3 and 6 year old were in the pool alone, because my mother and grandmother just throw them in there and walk away, I was inside cooking myself something..so I went outside to watch them to make sure nothing happened. So about 30 minutes later food was done and I told them it's time to get out and eat. So I ask my husband if he can pull them out from the pool so they can dry off a bit. What happens? My mother goes over my head and puts my son back in the pool. I told her he's gonna eat. She replies, but he wants to swim. Yes. I'm aware but I said it's time to eat. She rolls her eyes at this. So I ask my husband once again to grab him from the pool. We're eating and my oldest starts to have a fit. He's on the spectrum and this happens sometimes. My grandmother instead decides to yell at him while I'm trying to calm him down. After we're done eating my son's want to go back to the pool. I say okay. I'm sitting a few feet away and watching them, as a parent should, and my grandmother starts telling me to stop looking at them and relax. So stop watching my young kids who are in a pool alone? No. I'm getting huffs and puffs because I'm keeping vigilant. They're telling me I'm ridiculous because their heads are above water. Okay but it's not a kiddie pool. It's a pool and I'm also aware drowning can happen in a split second. My mother's roommate even started to chime in which first of all who the fuck are you to say anything to me? So I get in the pool that way they aren't alone and my youngest wants me to hold him, so I do, my mother's roommate starts making comments like "why are you holding him?" I replied "because he wants me to..mind your business". I was already fed up with all the unnecessary remarks. Why was I swimming with them. Why was I holding my 3 year old. Why this why that. So when we got home I told my husband that I'm not going over as much anymore. That I'm tired of being told how I should watch my kids from the generation of neglectful parents mind you. If I don't ask for advice then don't give it to me. I'm always going to watch my kids and make sure they're safe. That's my job.