How to deal with "say all the wrong things" friends
My husband and I have a 3 year old son, we've been TTC #2 since our wedding in August. Everyone knows I really want a girl this time around but would be happy either way. We got pregnant in September and had a miscarriage. A lot of my friends were super supportive but one was very prying and I chose not to really share with her.
The other day she came over with her girls to get their Christmas gifts. We were talking about someone another friend having a baby and how I was gonna be secretly jealous if they have a girl. She then says to me, "yeah I was thinking about your miscarriage and how that would suck if you get another boy next time and that one was your girl." I just looked at her with a blank stare and said "yes that thought has crossed my mind a few times" ( A week after my MC I found out my SIL was having a girl and was so jealous, and heartbroken, it was a hard day for me).
She tried to save herself by saying "yeah well maybe you'll have a girl and that one was just another boy"
Again. Blank stare. I changed the subject and avoided confrontation in front of our children but I don't know how to handle it. It's so frustrating for me that the most ignorant comments have been from someone who was a bridesmaid at my wedding, her daughters my flowergirls, and one of my best friends. Like the fact that I lost a baby doesn't matter 😩
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