Conflicted on what to do

So in 2020 when we found out that we were having my daughter, we told my parents when I was about 5 weeks because we were excited after years of infertility. It was Valentine’s Day and they both had been sick the week before. Since they were feeling well again we thought we tell them. I got them each a shirt that said grandma and grandpa on it. Since we had suffered infertility for so long we didn’t want to tell anyone till after the first trimester. But my stepmom was like “well what if I wear my shirt outside with a flannel over it and it just happens to blow open and the neighbors ask why I’m wearing it?” or “what of your brother sees me wearing it around the house?” I kept telling her to just wait to wear it or wear it under a sweatshirt. She kept pushing it. Then it was we had to call my little brother home from his Valentine’s Day date with his girlfriend so we could tell him before my other two brothers. Pissed me off so bad.

We’ll take I took a test and we’re expecting baby number two! Which is great because it took years and tests and medication for my daughter. My body did it naturally this time!!

I want to tell my Dad but I don’t want my stepmom to know because she was so pushy about it last time. Took the fun right out of it for us. We’re telling my in-laws and I want to be fair to my Dad.