Interested in having a gf

Hey! really want a gf but idk anyone interested🤦🏽‍♀️ I don’t even know where to start. I really don’t want to try any dating apps because I’m afraid of getting used. Any advice on where to start?

(I’m 19) just in case anyone wanted to know😅

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mi

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what about school/college? what about work place (part time jobs, not full time/serious career)? what about a gym? you are 19 not 29 39 tho.. i can see a lot of potential places where you can socialize and meet people.

G.

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Obviously, the only person who’s coming to your house is Amazon or the mailman, so you’re gonna have to get you out there whether it happens organically in real life or online. Joining activities, taking up hobbies, volunteering, you never know where you might meet somebody, in the line at the grocery store, and they have less items than you, and you let them go ahead of you, complementing people, sense of humor, that breaks down walls, my friend Tara , she’s been single a while, and I always say to her if you can make a girl believe your compliments, and say, really, you have her in your pocket, if you can make her laugh, humor and compliments are the best way to attract anyone. Playing it cool, being there, friend, and just seeing where it goes. Or perhaps, maybe you need to go to specifically gay bars on again I don’t know how old you are I forgot, or mixers, on college campuses or whatever you have available to you. Sometimes they have speed dating or they have. Coffee dates or whatever it may be in your area I have no clue where you live, but if they have LGBTQ plus activities in your area that’s probably an easier place to meet someone rather than just a random person in line because you don’t know if they are looking for a girlfriend or not. On college campuses, they usually have clubs and activity time, most likely unless you’re in the Bible Belt I’m assuming, they may have LGBTQ plus clubs, so it might be easier to meet somebody there. I mean there is tinder and Grindr and things like that, there’s on bumble, I believe some sections also, but you also have to remember that when it comes to dating that not everyone is looking for a relationship, you may be looking for a relationship, and they’re just looking for something casual, and to have fun, the first thing you need to make sure of is if you guys are on the same page and want the same thing. If you’re not, then you’re gonna end up feeling used and heartbroken. But communication is number one. Making sure that you want the same thing otherwise you’re wasting your time. That seems to be the biggest problem with dating apps is that most people are just looking for hook ups rather than relationships and those that are looking for relationships end up, not working out because they’re not looking for the same thing. But like I said, I wish you luck, I hope things work out, playing cool, being their friend, and just seeing where it goes, sometimes having a cuppa coffee, or somebody who’s newly heartbroken, being vulnerable, and you’re the shoulder to cry on, that your foot in the door, you just have to look for opportunities and make sure that the opportunity presents itself and putting yourself out there going to events, going to parties, dance clubs, wherever people are otherwise the only person who’s coming to your house is the mailman that’s it. I wish you luck.

Gi

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Lets mingle🥰

Em

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Where u from

Ra

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Same here (26)

Ro

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Socializing in public you get to have conversations and it be genuine in person encounters