Husband rather watch porn then have sex

Recently my husband hasnt been wanting to be intimate with me he says it’s because he’s had a long day at work or he’s tired.. his new excuses are that my belly is to big or that me being on bc kills his sex drive ( I’m not on bc cause my body would reject it and I would get super sick I consulted him before I stopped making sure he was okay with it) which is false cause up until recently he’s had one..

I don’t know why but I got a feeling to check his phone and sure enoigh it’s filled with 6 tabs of porn (which I deleted to show him o saw what he was looking at and to see how often he was doing it) and then on a app called discord is just all porn as well. My heart automatically sunk to my stomach later that night I asked him to delete the apps and to stop doing what he’s doing and he said he would if I bettered myself and went to the gym..

the next comes and I’m already stressed out about a lot of things in life and adding that was a cherry to the cake so I decided to go for a run when he got home from work I was only gone a hr and I had a feeling he was doing it again.. well his friend came over and he left his phone in a different room so I went to check and 2 new tabs opened in just the hour span of me being gone…

I told him what’s the point of me trying if he’s just gonna use outside sources and he’s like cause your my wife?? And I prefer actual sex then my hand?? And I’m like sure doesn’t seem like it with your porn?? Then he decides to try and lie and go “ oh I’m watching porn now??” And I was like let’s go check your hidden tabs and discord and he automatically got quiet and kinda ended the convo there..

I’m going to bring it up again today but I just feel so defeated and heart broken cause I don’t know how long this has been going on and if he really does rather have that then me… he did it before work today too around 8:10in the morning after I left for a errand.. what hurts the most is a couple months ago he told me he stopped watching potn and only used what I sent him cause porn was cheating and he didn’t feel right looking at other women.. and now the things have changed and I have no clue why..

I don’t know if he’s physically cheating with someone else or what… he also searched how to make your “ load” bigger which makes me concerned on why he wants that….