My mom ruined my engagement 1 yr ago and my husband won’t let my mom come to the birth of are child now

So last year I got engaged to my BF of 2 yrs almost 3, I’m now married and having a baby . Here’s the background though, my family are extremely religious like don’t kiss before your married religions . Safe to say I didn’t keep to this , my husband is actually from the same religion…. We both stepped away , now when I got engaged everything was fine until after where my then fiancé reached up my dress and pinched my butt … to a normal person what ever but my mother freaked out said how he was disrespectful, and he feels she ruined it . I didn’t really get the chance to be upset my fiancé and mom managed to be upset enough for everyone. Now FF today , they get along talk , are even friends like call each other . I thought ….. my mom coming to town to help me with something important I said “just say at are house “ she asked me if my husband would be okay with it … me thinking everything okay I said yes and forgot to double check because I really did think it would be okay …. This has turned into a spiral argument , where he was mad she was staying ….

Then said “next your gonna want your family there for the birth of my baby “

Then I said “I assume this was allowed “

The he flipped out and said she’s not ruining it

They have gotten along for months …….

And I said okay well then your parents do get to be there and he said how is that fair I said well my family don’t get to be there yours don’t … and he’s went on and on about we are not doing tit for tat and I said I’m birthing the baby it’s actually not about you it’s about me and the baby …. My moms not gonna ruin it but you are ruining it for me , the memories might be great for you but are not gonna be for me .

I’m posting this to vent

So I suggested after the baby was born but he said she’s not allowed at the hospital at all .