TTC… by yourself?!

Hello ladies,

This a weird one. My(31) DH(45) has been through infertility hell with his ex and he doesn’t want to TTC. They tried for over 10y and absolutely ruined their relationship and mental health. He would be happy if we got pregnant, but he gets triggered by basal temp checks, ovulation tests, and scheduled sex. He also randomly doesn’t finish inside, because he feels used if he “has to”😞 I really want a baby and I don’t know what our chances are if we aren’t both working towards it. He probably only finishes inside 1-3 times per month! It’s incredibly frustrating and I honestly feel a bit lost. He said he wants a child, but he doesn’t want to feel like a sperm cow 😭 Do you have any advice for me? He’s been to therapy for a few years, and doesn’t want to go back to it. Our relationship is great otherwise, awesome sex and great communication wise! He’s very supportive of everything I do, he just has the ick for TTC. If he catches a wif of the fact that I want to have sex not because I’m in the mood, but because it’s the perfect time for us to conceive he is completely put off and doesn’t even wanna do it anymore😭 what do I do?!