A woman's success doesn't always have to be the product of a man

My ex and I were together for a very very long time,

we lived in a nice place, took exotic vacations multiple times a year and had an on paper picture perfect life.

When we split, people made comments about the great life he "had given me".

People said I must've sucked him dry because he treated me like a queen. I bit my tounge and just let people talk.

Cut to now, I'm in a 1 1/2 year relationship and I'm still living the same lifestyle as before. Today some stupid head man asked me how I did it, I asked what he meant he asked "How do you get men to break the bank to do all this for you?" and made a crass joke that I must be great in bed and he could never afford a girl like me (barf).

Are you kidding me??? What is the common denominator here? ME!!! I'm the one giving myself the things I want.

I'm not gonna lie, neither my ex or my current partner are bums. I don't pick "rich" men, but I do pick overachievers. I pick responsible, hard working men, I don't need them to get anything for me, but I do pick a man with goals who's interested in a partnership and growing together, that's why we achieve so much, because we're not in a competition, we are together as a unit to improve together and individually.

I do have to be honest though, for the better part of a decade I have outearned my partners, but I never throw it in their face.

We're really fair with mortgage, bills and expenses, that being said, because I make what I make I'm the one usually buying flights, hotels and stuff and I love doing it.

I don't care that people think I'm a gold digger because I know my truth and don't need to convince people otherwise.

But being honest, today that man got underneath my skin, it did make me mad. I responded with a straight face "I actually don't need anyone to pay for me, I do so myself", he saw I didn't think it was funny and started to minimize what he said and I just walked away.

Why is it so hard for society to accept that a lot of women out there don't need a man? I love my partner but I can provide for myself, and why does a woman's achievements and accomplishments have to be the product of a man? As if women were incapable of achieving great things.