Heyy yall, i have question cuz i cant wrap my head around what to think. Im.talking to this girl and she expressed to me the name i know her as is nott her first name, that don't really matter to me but she doesnt want to tell me it ever bcuz of her past. Which is understandable, her thing is she doesnt want me to know who she was in the past, doesnt want me to ever meet anybody from her past and i cant help but think she need to heal from her past b4 wanting a relationship (which i expressed) she said no she doesnt even want to think about the past and doesnt want to be that person so she made this name and wants to change it legally and be thus better person. I am big on healing and dealing with childhood trauma. 1 thing that didnt sit with well with me is she called it a "double life" which i think shes just using the wrong term (when i asked for clarification) she expressed she doesn't want anything from the past to come up and i told her w.e happened in ur past idc about, none of us are really the same especially if u want to be a better version of you and it couldnt make me think or look at you differently unless ur past is actually something present (she said its not) Sooooo my concern is should i let her go to heal, do this with someone else or just allow this trauma to hold her back from being 100% her entering into a new relationship and respect she doesnt want anypart of it and nvr know her first name???