I don’t let anyone take my kids places without me

I know I’m probably the asshole in this situation but I want to see if anyone else is like this too. My in laws are mad at me because I don’t let them take my 3 year old places without me or my husband there. I have extreme anxiety about kidnapping and car accidents and I honestly don’t trust them to buckle him in his car seat correctly even if we do show them. I do feel bad but I can’t get myself to let it happen. They see him often and we go places all together all the time. Sometimes we’re not able to because of work or other plans but I just don’t feel comfortable with anyone else driving and taking my toddler places without us there. I know I’m extremely over protective but I’ve lost a child close to me in the past in a very tragic way and I just have anxiety about it. I get they wanna spend time with him and that’s fine but I don’t know why it’s so important to them that me and my husband aren’t there. Is anyone else like this? I know I’m probably in the wrong but I feel like it’s my kid my choice. Idk what to do because I feel like they hate me because of it

Edit: I also wanted to add they never once asked if they could take my child somewhere but got angry with my husband saying they’re never allowed to which honestly made me a little mad because they have no communication what so ever yet they want me to trust them with my kid.