Has anyone dealt with the lack of their partners help? If so, how do you get them to help more other than communicating? Also how do you deal with baby blues?

We have a 1 week old newborn & in the first few days he helped a ton but now he doesn’t help much. He plays video games from the times he wakes til about 1am every night & for the past 2 days he has been gone all day from 11am-8pm as if i have not begged him for help. He’s says “it’s easy, what do I need help with”. He just sees it as changing a diaper & feeding our baby but it’s so much more.

I delivered our baby natural, I had to tears on my vagina (first baby). I am 1 week pp, it still hurts. Everytime I get out of bed it hurts. I am having trouble breastfeeding bc my nipples are super sore so I just pump every 2-3 hours so my baby still has breast milk. I have to wash & sterilize the pumps, bottles etc after each use no matter the time of day. It’s not easy at all & for him to think that hurts. Our baby will wake up in the middle of the night crying bc it’s time for her to eat & he will either ignore it or sleep thru it sometimes but it’s “so easy”.

I’ve tried taking to him but I get so overwhelmed & I start to cry. I’ve explained to him what baby blues & ppd is but he doesn’t believe in it & anytime we argue he brings up the fact that I’m going to cry again. It’s not my fault I have no control over my emotions. I just feel like I’m begging him to be a better parent & partner & he doesn’t care. I believe your spouse can either help kill baby blues/ppd or increase it.

Any advice?