Am I wrong? Husband’s friend

Question

So my husband and his bestfriend have been friends for years & he’s roomating with someone but he comes over like everyweek & not only that he always wants to spend the night. We’re in a two bed apt with a 3week old and a 19month old and it just annoys me but I don’t want to be rude and say cant come over. It’s 9pm and he’s been here since 12pm and asked my husband if him and this girl he’s talking to could spend the night. This would be the second time. I spoke to my husband about it already but he still always ask if it’s ok after I’ve already expressed how I felt.  Am i over reacting? So now the kids and i are gonna be in the bed and hubby sleeps on the couch like wtffff. It pisses  me off that the friend even asks. Like be considerate. Although my husband asked if it’s ok its like damn what do you think?

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This is incredibly rude, but to top it off you have a 3 week old. I wouldn’t let anyone stay at my house all day after just having a baby. His friend is a jerk for even asking. But so is your husband. You both need to tell him no for now and not in the future either. I’d never let anyone I didn’t know personally and trust to spend the night in my house with kids.

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He barely knows this girl and expects you to just blindly trust her near your kids? No id def say no. Hes an adult sleep overs are for children and people visiting from far away.

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Not you’re not being unreasonable. In fact it’s quite inconsiderate of your husband and the friend. You definitely need to put your foot down

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Hes acting like a single guy making sure his other single guy friend has a place to hook up, id be worried if the friend is doing the same for your husband since they both there acting like single guys basicaly ignoring you and ur kids because hell no that would not be happening in my and my kids home

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Just say no. There is no way I’d be alright with my partner’s friend staying over that often. What are they, high schoolers? And with a hook-up? No. Why?

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You both need to put your foot down. Tell him he can bot sleep over especially with some random person he doesn't know. He needs to take her to his house or go to hers

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Hell no, and if your husband thinks you are being unreasonable, pack up the kids and go to your parents until they both get it

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What is wrong with ur husband? Like seriously grow up.. he has a wife and responsibilities.. his friend isn't a true friend.. just a means to an end to hook up with someone.. in ur family home.. u have to put a stop to this.

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You're not wrong. It would sincerely piss me off. You have repeatedly told him that you don't want this to happen, and he repeatedly still asks every time. It's like he's completely dismissing how you feel about it and putting you on the spot so you will feel uncomfortable saying no. That is not fair. I would make it very clear to him that his friend cannot stay at your house every week and do not ask you again when you've already said no because it makes you feel dismissed and very disrespected when he puts you on the spot. Especially with a girl, and you have kids in the house. That is not cool and I would be irate over this. If his friend asked to stay over once a month, or once every two months, I would have zero issues with that. But every week… Hell no.

Am I wrong? Husband’s friend

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