Getting back into the swing of things

Like I got out of my one and only relationship last year (LONG TERM I left 10/01/2022 thanks toan odd turn to abuse and HORRIBLE secrets apparently the whole 11 years i didnt know about) And I kind of wish I had a beau a little bit. But I want like a low stakes beau and at 29 I feel everyone is either only searching for sex only OR wanting to get married by 30.

Like are the other people searching for a low stakes cutie where we can cuddle and kiss and, yes, sex too if things go right?

Im in therapy and working on myself but like there's no way to work past some issues without trusting yourself with someone again. Like mild touch aversion etc. I dont want to be hunted like some prey by fuckbois but also don't want someone wanting a very serious relationship to feel strung along. Im open to things developing but im honestly not going into it searching for a spouse.

Like how do you do that?