I completely understand when my 4 year old daughter doesn’t want much to do with my parents. They make little to no effort to show interest in my kids, it’s left to me to initiate contact. I wanted to go visit my parents on Boxing Day with the kids. LO said she’d rather go to her “real” grandmother for a visit. Despite explaining that she has 2 real grandparents, and it’s X-mad season, I didn’t force her. She’ll just be clingy, difficult and moody as usual. I didn’t want to deal with it. Despite my daughter’s temperament, My parents don’t understand how to handle her. Last time LO was there, they don’t give her time to get comfortable and my dad come in her face tells her why she’s being a “bad girl” he doesn’t mean to be rude but it’s stressful dealing with it. I’ve told them numerous times how to go about it but it’s not going through. My question is do I need to try to make my child go for visits despite her reluctance? Will it cause more resistance? Does it change with age?

My husband says my parents have missed out connecting with our LO and it’s too late now to force it if they are just expecting from us to keep the relationship alive.