I thought he had changed..

I’ve been with my husband for 9 years, 2 children and one on the way. We have had a rough past since we started dating as teenagers but we are now 27 years old and I feel like life is finally getting more consistent and feeling more stable.

My husband has always had a problem holding down a job since he grew up in foster care, he is a big introvert and has bad social anxiety. The only way he can get through work is if he drinks alcohol.. I hate this! I can’t stand seeing it everyday but when he is home he doesn’t drink nor buy alcohol.. he’s a great father and the best man but when he goes back to work he has to have it just to get through work.. I’m very concerned because i just don’t know what to do at this point. I’ve talked to him about medication & therapy. But he’s such a dude that, that’s not even a option. At this point it’s getting so bad that he’s using some of his future paycheck (through some app that gives you portions of your check early) that’s suppose to pay bills just so he can get through work with drinking… I thought things would be different, but I’m starting to think they aren’t. Am I overthinking things? Should I try to help him more then what I am? Or is it time to just leave ?