My husband and I have two kiddos. We recently decided to start trying for our third. We briefly discussed how to tell our family (once #3 is on the way). I personally want to keep it very low-key, and hold off on telling anyone. (Ideally until I’m showing) There are two things on my mind in particular, that bring me to this decision.

#1 I have a sis who is having a very tough time conceiving, and recently had a traumatic experience with miscarriage. I just can’t picture myself telling her “hey, I’m pregnant, again,” while she is every bit of deserving of this, and still, stuck with nothing. I feel for her, and just simply don’t know how the heck to go about this?

#2 I’m very in my head about this being my third. I feel the need to downplay it, and pretend it’s no big deal, just because I’ve done this already. Like no cool pregnancy announcements, just more of a passing, “oh yeah, I’m pregnant again.” I don’t know. I’m not one for attention, but dang, pregnancy is hard, and all consuming, and I’d like to share excitement, without guilt/discomfort.

My husband says to just roll with it. It’s not our job to protect others feelings, regardless of how much we want to.