I love her but my mom has always made awful choices when it comes to her behavior. She’s an angry, lost person. Always has been. My grandmother said she was like that even as a kid. My parents are divorced and they HATE each other. Birthdays suck, holidays suck. My dad is good at hiding his feelings around her but she can’t do it back. My siblings and I are grown, some of us with our own homes and now with kids. So we want holidays combined so we can stop doing 5 days worth of a holiday, especially when we have our husbands family too. I had my first baby 7 months ago and I hosted Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a>- my baby’s first. We wanted Christmas Day at a mutual meeting ground so that again, we would be combined. Settled with my grandmothers house. My mom flipped. She’s currently not speaking to her own mom for dumb reasons. She then started a scene and starting name calling my dad who is sitting on the couch minding his own business because she didn’t want him invited and she didn’t want it at my grandmothers. I told her she is not allowed to act that way in my house on my baby’s first Christmas or she could leave. She didn’t like that. Haven’t spoken to her since. She came over New Year’s Day unannounced and threw our gifts through the door and didn’t say a word to us. Didn’t help that my MIL happened to be over hanging with the baby so I know that pissed my mom off even more. I initiated a text to her to come back but she never answered me. So I’m sort of done with her. I have no problem loosing contact with my mom, she’s done and said really hurtful things to me my whole life and I could go on and on. But when she’s normal and sane, she’s a great mom. She’s just the most angry person I’ve ever met. She has a lot to be angry about, but she lets it consume her. I just feel SO sad for my son. Because if I kick her to the curb, he looses knowing his grandmother. I HATE that his existence and life isn’t enough for her to realize she needs to grow up. She’s ignoring me and not talking to me for what good reason? I don’t think she has a right. But I’m in mama mode, I’m protecting my new family from toxic negative behavior so that’s why I’m a little defensive over this. Plus the childhood trauma flooding in 🙃