Hello!

I'm not sure if this is the right place to talk about this, because both my boyfriend and I are 20 years old and legally we're adults, but sometimes I feel like we're still kids. Our relationship is fairly new. We've been together for over a year now, but this is the first relationship for both of us, so we're still learning. Although I feel lost and I don't know what to do right now.

I always try to be a good girlfriend, I plan my days a certain way, which allows me to spend time with him as well. Even if it's a long phone call or a spontaneous date. I always have time for him, no matter how busy I am or how awful I feel (I have a messy family situation, and I'm often upset because of it). I love talking on the phone before sleep, there was many times when I was exhausted, but he wanted to talk with me, so I stayed up for him, but if it's the other way, he just begs me to let him go to sleep after talking for 2 minutes. I try to be there for him always, I constantly compliment him, tell him how much i love him (many times throughout the day), and show him that he can feel comfortable with me. Sadly, I don't feel the same from him.

Another thing I should mention is that he loves playing computer games, especially after a long, tiring day as a relaxation. Honestly, I hate this habit. He can play for hours and forget about me, or sometimes he sends me videos on Instagram between games, but basically, he disappears when he plays. Once I came over to his house, because we discussed it earlier that I would be going, and I texted him when I got there, called him, but he didn't answer. Finally, I decided to call his mom, and she let me in because he wouldn't reply. Then I saw him in front of his computer playing with his friends. When he saw me, he instantly regretted his decision and wouldn't stop apologizing. But in that moment, I felt like I wasn't important enough for him, and everything else comes first (by everything, I mean the games and his friends). This wasn't the only time I felt like this. Almost every night he plays, then he doesn't want to talk on the phone because he's tired, or he just falls asleep without texting me. Am I too codependent or clingy because of this? Because I like good morning and good night texts, and I like to talk with him about our days every day.

The main issue I want to talk about is the fact that he needs more space than me. This is our main argument topic. Last summer, he was working with his dad almost every day, and he was always too exhausted to do anything with me. I felt bored and neglected that time. I would've been happy with a movie night or anything as long as we spent some time together, but he never wanted to meet.

Nowadays it's the same, except he's not working but we have to study for an exam. (Also, right now, I'm alone at home because my family went on a holiday, and I often feel lonely. Even his mom said he should come here sometimes, but he wouldn't...) He says he can only study alone. I don't understand why we can't get a coffee together or have lunch or do something small while being together? He never invites me anywhere, I initiate everything in this relationship, and I'm tired of it. I feel like I'm always just complaining, and nothing changes. He just enjoys being in this relationship and not giving anything to it. I wish he would care about me enough to notice that I'm not happy in this situation. How can I make him work for it? What should I do?