Sex spark gone?

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I’ve been with my hubby for 10 years. Thru the bad and the good. Never have a lost the “spark” but here lately I haven’t been able to “satisfy” myself during the moment. Normally I have 0 issues. But lately we have been under an ungodly amount of stress, I’m hoping this is just one of those times that one’s the stress let’s up everything goes back to normal. I’m hoping if I work on myself I mentally might be able to get past a block I might have. Has anyone else gone through this? I will say we have let ourselves go more lately with the life stress and everything else. So definitely could be an issue 😶 I’m feeling so shitty even though I know it’s common.

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My husband and I have been together for 10 years now too. We’re both in our 30s now. And early on sex was a major thing. As a big girl it definitely feels nice to feel sexy/attractive. After 10 years your body changes. I use to be 115lbs and now I’m 230 (I am trying to lose weight so please be kind). So I’ve naturally have become more insecure with my body. I’m not sure how you and your husband are but my hubby has always slapped my butt when I’m walking around. It annoyed me for the longest time being like “sigh, he’s such a guy” but now I’ve grown to embrace it. It astounds me that after 10 years he still finds me attractive. So it excites me to initiate the devils tango. 
We’ve definitely have had major issues but you gotta remember that after 10 years, there’s a reason why you are still together. Maybe the flame isn’t out. Maybe it needs just a spark to ignite again? My biggest turn on is spontaneous shenanigans. Try being silly again. Essentially, keep having fun. I hope this helps!

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Stress, insecure about your own body, maybe your partner, you said, let themselves go as well, but ask yourself the question. When was the last time you guys had a date night, slow, danced in the kitchen, wrote each other, love, notes, talk, dirty to each other, Told the other what they couldn’t wait to do them the minute they got home, Incorporated sex toys, talked about fantasies and fulfilled them, the longer you are together, sometimes things can become routine or comfortable or boring. When was the last time you broke up the norm, and did some out of the norm. Rather than the usual routine. When was the last time, he truly pleased you, sexually, helping around the house, helping with the kids, taking things off your plate so you’re not overwhelmed, when was the last time you truly felt supported by him. When was the last time you truly felt connected to him on every level, not just sexually, but emote emotionally, mentally, physically, when was the last time you guys massaged each other, took a bubble bath together, etc. Yes, sex is definitely psychological, if you’re thinking about all the things you have to do that you didn’t have time to do, you’re thinking about being walked in on by the kids or you’re in-laws, you’re thinking about the fight you guys just had, absolutely it can affect the physical and emotional portion of sex. If you’re mad at him,and you’re not feeling appreciated, lack of conversation, and connection. If you’re annoyed with him, asking him to do the same thing over and over again with no result, absolutely it can affect things. I hope things get better.

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Stress can definitely do that for sure! Can also get your hormones checked because that also plays a huge role in that.

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I’m not married however I do feel how difficult it is to orgasm after all the stress and being insecure about your body.so love yourself and keep going you can do this.

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It’s not your sex life it’s seriously JUST the stress. Get a toy and do extra to set the mood. You’ll get back soon. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR MARRIAGE OR PARTNER OR SPARK.

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If you’re stressed and struggling to orgasm, why do you think it’s because of your partner? Deal with the stress.

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Yea girl, if you ain’t 🥜 
I don’t feel excited if my man doesn’t treat me right… if things don’t get adventurous… if connections get less strong… my 🐱 can’t get excited 
U give it some time and see how things go but if this phase keeps persisting and you getting thoughts of cheating? You’ll have to split better to be honest than be a cheater

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It is soooo normal to feel like the spark is gone when you are under a lot of physical or mental stress, and when a person is undergoing too much so does the relationship. My personal advice is to take a day to just be alone the two of you go out,  watch a movie at home even and joke around. Just spent time together and make each other laugh.... Spice it up and do something in tr bedroom you haven't. Maybe even try a random BJ or sex on the kitchen counter or something you don't usually do.

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don’t put so much pressure on yourself or the situation! you even said yourself it’s from the stress! so don’t make it or turn it into something it’s not! (i only say that bc im the type that will over thing and reach for other possibilities that make no sense) don’t rush it either. you guys love each other, and you’ll find your way back no matter what! try to stay positive!🩵

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Good morning Everyone,
I have been through what you all are talking about and it’s hard. I am still going through the weight issues and I have a lot of health problems so, for me intimacy is the last thing on my mind.  I have made an effort to walk at least 2 days or more a week. I’m trying to eat healthier too. My Husband has weight issues and we sometimes walk together. It got so bad with me. I told my Husband to please go find a woman to Ms you happy and satisfy your sexual needs. Then I prayed and asked God to give me the desire, strength, and passion to make love to my Husband the way he deserves. It was amazing.😻

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