I love my M-I-L because she respects our boundaries, is helpful and always there for our kids. However, she doesn’t feel like family to me, personally. She comes over, sometimes unannounced (which is fine) but only to see my kids and how she’s missed them. She barely has conversations with me, it’s like I’m invisible in the room. She says to me, I’m family and I’m always welcome but it doesn’t quite feel so genuine. I felt this the moment I had a disagreement with my husband at my in-laws and they took his side justifying it. Or another time we had conflict with our first newborn that he needs to be more hands-on and they took his side how he’s working and needs to provide. I have realized that if ever shit hits the fan I would be booted out fast.

My husband says they see me as part of the family but I’ve told him I don’t think so. Not exactly sure if I’m reading this right or just insecurity.