I Met this guy (let’s call him justin) in summer of 2022 and we hit it off. We kissed on our first date and climbed on a roof top late at night on our second date. We ended up going out for a month. At the time I was 22 and he was 27. We met at my work place. I made him a Coffee and finished my shift shortly after. When I left the cafe he literally ran after me just to ask for my number, he was so out of breath once he got to me lol.

He showed me how to tie my shoe laces because I was doing it wrong the whole time😅

He gave me his gold earrings after I got ear piercings so that they could heal faster, and he also cleaned the blood and all the dead cells off of my ears.

I slept at his place that one time (we never had sex tho) and woke up to the sound of him cleaning my dirty sneakers (which had coffee stains all over them due to work) in the bathroom.

He used to be a nurse but he switched his career and became a full time programmer. So he was well off for a 27 year old. Very well off.

He was well spoken, lived by himself and had a drivers license. He was educated, he was fit, a bit taller than me, read a lot of books and he was sooooo calm. His voice was so soothing.

He was and had everything I missed and wanted for myself so I was inspired by him.

I come from a very very unhealthy family. I used to be beaten and cursed at by my single mother. We always had fights so calmness and stability was always unusual and boring.

So when I met him, I got easily bored.

I am Persian and he is from Nigeria and my mother was surprised by the fact that I was dating a black man. She said dating a black man is acceptable if he looks good. But this guy is not handsome. My mothers comments and disapproval about his looks made me question my attractiveness to him.

I literally dumped that guy over a text, returned his earrings and never spoke to him again.

I regret it now. It’s been a little more than a year and I wish the 22 year old me didn’t make that decision.

I actually texted him 3 weeks ago and ask him if he would like to meet again. He said yes but that he is not in the country at the moment and will reach out to me once he is back.

Have you ever stayed with a partner when they were physically less attractive than you?

Have you every stayed with a partner despite of your family’s disapproval?

And most importantly do you have a experience with a fallout and rebound, as in rejecting someone and than dating them a while after?