My hun works 12 hour shifts at a hospital. Surprisingly the food there is bomb, that's why I've always said to him, it doesn't matter what I make for dinner, if he's hungry at work or the food is yummy he can eat there and I won't be offended. I'm chill with food stuff, if he ate somewhere else instead of at home it's not that important.

I'm ok with putting his plate in the microwave (He'll get hungry when I eat), or it can go in the fridge, I know he'll eat it tomorrow. I simply don't care, plus sometimes he'll get patients that take up his entire lunch and break so of course I want him to eat even if it's just before he comes home, I'm not upset cuz he'll end up eating with me anyway.

Yesterday we hosted his coworker and coworker's girlfriend for dinner. As we were eating somehow the topic of what was served at the hospital came up, I asked if he had any and he said no. Girlfriend said "They know better than to eat before coming home", I responded "Oh that actually sounds so good". She looked at me in a "Are you serious?" kind of way.

The next thing feels like a fever dream and like I'm hallucinating. Somehow slowly the conversation ensues into a full on disagreement and they're both yelling at each other while my bub, son and I are stunned in silence.

He yells that he can't even have a taste of his mom's cooking and is not allowed to bring it in tupperware because girlfriend "Will go psychotic", girlfriend calls him an ungrateful pig and she'll never cook for him again. They BOTH call each other terrible names and girlfriend ends up getting up and leaving to the car. He apologizes and leaves and my son, hun and I end up having dinner on our own with their plates still there. She hasn't reached out and I'm not close enough to her to call and see if she's ok.

Coworker apologized to my hun this morning at work and I'm unsure if I should send her a text. I told my sisters and mom and they can kind of see her side on spouses eating out while their SO cooks at home, but it's more disrespectful to do that in someone's home when they're a guest.

As I said, my hun's line of work consists of him being on his feet for 12 straight hours starting a 5:00 am so I don't mind him eating, plus surprisingly for someone as uptight as me, this is an area where I really don't care.

Would you guys reach out to see if she's ok or should I let it go?