My daughter (F19) is bright, sensible (usually), very pretty! She has always struggled socially.

When little and at home or around people she knew she would be out going, chatty etc around strangers she would hide behind my legs and not say a word.

When she started school they thought she had selective mute as she wouldnt speak to anyone.

She eventually found her voice and one friend who she relied on.

High school she was bullied (her words-I don’t no the full picture or extent she she would never say). Changed her schools (something she wanted).

She found one friend and hanged around a bad crowd (she would try fit in by lying about her upbringing, home life etc).

She got involved with a boy (a piss of shit) teachers were concerned about her being cohersed by him.

Left school boy still (controlled her, used her).

She would and still sends him money, latest trainers etc even though this boy doesn’t see her and has a child with someone else.

She got a job, manager didn’t like her (her words) so she got another job (both mangers had issues with her and didn’t like her (her words)).

Now got a (proper) job after training etc as cabin crew. She being called in nearly once a month to re sit exams/safety tests etc or meetings etc. my daughter says it’s because a manager doesn’t like her!

I got her to explain. She stated this one manage would talk to her rudely and be obvious with her tone body language she didn’t like her. She said she would tell her off for not wearing correct shoes but other girls never got told of etc

Anyway I was convinced enough so write a professional email for her to send to her seniors about this particular manager and how she felt or was made to feel etc

Well she says it’s backfired and she has been called in for a meeting and test.

I would like opinions. I feel that there must be something my daughter does or doesn’t do that is causing her to have repeated issues in every job! I’ve discovered I’m only ever given her watered down (victim) version and not the whole story (I only know this as she has tripped up previously on things she has said etc.

she struggles a lot socially (she always has) and is and always has been in her own head (with the fairies) her whole life and I always thought age would pull her into the real world. I’m so confused by her!

Could she have autism or some sort of personality disorder?

I would never suggest this to her as she would go around telling people she has it without even being diagnosed.

I’ve left her to her on with things before and let her learn her own way but it hasn’t helped. I’ve supported and been her one advocate which also hasn’t helped as I’m usually told half a truth so it makes me look stupid when I intervene and then discover her version was drastically changed to suit her.

What should I do?