Soo, I’ve been seeing this guy for about six months now and we’ve had a lot of fun together, we have amazing sex and he’s very much in love with me and want to be in a relationship with me. However, I’ve been holding back because I met him recently after I got out of a long term relationship. And even though I like him a lot and we have a great sexual chemistry, there’s a long list of things that make me doubt that we would work long term.

1. He can be very childish. We’re both 26 years old, but sometimes I feel like I’m at least 5 years older than him. He doesn’t like serious conversation, he’s always messing around even when I’m trying to have a normal conversation with him, and it’s really frustrating sometimes 😅

2. He’s ALWAYS on his phone… It seriously frightens me how addicted he is to his phone, and when he’s on it he is unable to respond to anything. I can literally scream his name and he doesn’t react. I’ve told him basically every time we hang out to please put his phone away, and he agrees that it’s a problem, but it never gets better…

3. He has homophobic tendencies? Like he can make comments about how seeing gay people and trans people on tv makes him uncomfortable and how they get to much attention in the media, and when I call him out on this behaviour or challenge his views he just says I don’t get what he means or that he is “old fashioned”. We have way different views on this and equality as well, and he can make “jokes” about women a lot, and I’m kinda scared he’s just looking for a housewife. (He does cook and clean and all of that, but I feel like that could change in the future if you get me).

4. He has a very negative mindset, and is aaalways tired (at least when he’s with me). He complains a lot generally, and when I call him out on his phone use or that he doesn’t seem interested in talking to me when we’re together, he always just says that he’s tired and doesn’t have energy to do anything.

The list goes on actually, and as I’m writing this post I realise even more that we’re not compatible emotionally at all. I’ve been trying to look past all of these things for the past six months because I like him and I feel safe in his presence, but recently I’ve just not been able to ignore it anymore! He always tells me how patient I am with him, and that I make him want to change and everything, but I don’t think it’s going to happen… should I just end it now, or do you think there’s a chance that he’ll change?